How to listen to yourself every day in a Focusing way.
…what if you don’t have a Focusing session booked for that day? …You could ask yourself, how am I feeling inside right now? And then wait and see what comes. You may find thoughts, feelings and emotions, body sensations coming into your awareness.
How a Focuser kept company with a vulnerable part of them.
Kerry writes, thanks so much for taking your time on my question for the last Focusing Tips… I had a really amazingly insightful experience. I had an image of a Kuala bear in a tree that just wanted to be safe and because it felt vulnerable it seemed to be clenching on out of fear and creating my pain.
Being kind to your inner child.
Liolah writes, I wondered if you may be able to help with a Focusing issue? Its about what to do when inner child stuff takes over. There is unclarity about what’s been felt in the body and what’s been re-experienced from inner child states. Safety and holding around what’s happening to different states….
What does it mean to find a place of Presence?
Q. Someone who is new to Focusing asks how can she find a place of Presence. She read last month’s Focusing tips, where I said the key is to find a place of Presence. What do I mean by that, and how to do it?
A. ‘Presence’ is a shorthand way of describing an optimal inner environment which allows change through Focusing to happen. Presence links my small, personal self to something much larger and universal.
When to stay with sadness and grieving, and when to get on with life and look at the sunny side of life.
Christiane writes: Still I am going through a lot of grieving and sadness and that scares me sometimes, because I think it might get more and more and never stop. I am aware that I am still searching so much for fulfillment and happiness and it makes me so sad, that I haven’t reached yet, what makes me fulfilled in life…
Question: How do I use Focusing with a difficult situation in my life?
Answer: When you are Focusing, you are sensing something in your body, which contains meaning, and is related to something in your life. For instance, say you have had a difficult conversation with someone, perhaps a friend, a family member or a work colleague, that leaves you feeling uncomfortable, unfinished somehow. There’s more that you wanted to say, but couldn’t find the right words in that moment.
‘I’m not getting anywhere in my Focusing.’
There may be a number of reasons why you don’t seem to be getting anywhere with your Focusing, and each will need a different response. Perhaps you are trying too hard. Sometimes parts of us feel pushed or pressurized and don’t want to open up to show more of themselves.
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