Frequently Asked Questions
1. How do I get started with Focusing?
The best way to find out more is to have an introductory session, where you have an opportunity to ask questions, see a demonstration, and try it out for yourself. The initial session takes up to 90 minutes. This can happen on the phone, if you live some distance away. After the first session there are several ways you can take it further.
2. What are my options for Focusing?
- You can take a Focusing course. You have the added benefit of other people to practice with, as well as their questions and input into the group.
- You can have more sessions. You can arrange a series of sessions, or simply book as and when you want a session, as frequently or as seldom as suits you.
- You can learn Focusing individually. Focusing learning sessions take 90 minutes.
- You can sign up for the Partnership Programme through the Focusing Institute. You can go on the register for a telephone Focusing partner. Focusing is now being taught and practised very successfully on the telephone. It works out cheaper than travelling somewhere, and it is very relaxing to Focus in the comfort of your own home. It is surprising how well it works.
No Focusing courses near you? Then join a small group to learn Focusing by telephone or through your computer with Skype. You don’t even need to leave the comfort of your own home to enjoy the richness that Focusing has to offer.
3. Is Focusing like meditation?
It is like meditation, in that it involves inner attentiveness. However, the purpose and the results are different. In meditation, I might bring attention to the breath, or what is happening in the body. If thoughts and feelings arise, I gently let them go, and return to the meditation practice.
In Focusing, when thoughts and feelings arise, I turn my attention towards them, enquiring further and staying with them as they unfold. This leads to an awareness of the subtle sense beneath the thoughts and feelings, which is known as the ‘felt sense‘. It is at this subtle level that shifts and changes happen.
Many people find that practising Focusing as well as meditation can be very beneficial.
See Focusing and Meditation for more information.
4. Is Focusing a body relaxation?
It is best not to especially relax the body as you do a body scan. It is helpful, however, to bring your attention to each part of your body. This ensures you are fully grounded in the body, and you are able to notice quite specifically how it is right now. This sharpens your awareness. You may find parts of the body relaxing naturally as you do this. Or, sometimes places want to show just how tense they are feeling right now. During the course of the session, you will discover how relaxing Focusing is, in and of itself.
5. Is Focusing therapy?
Focusing is not therapy, which means you are self-responsible and you are in charge of what happens during your session. You can ask your Companion to listen for you in just the way you want. There is no long-term contract. You set up your sessions as and when you want them. Focusing can be very therapeutic, however, and it also supports your therapy, if that’s how you want to use it.
6. Is Focusing like Co-counselling?
Yes and no. It is like co-counselling, in that once you have learnt the process you can take listening turns with a partner. However, there are significant differences, the main one being the Focuser is in charge of the session, and they are giving listening to something inside that needs their attention. The Focuser becomes their own best friend, with the support of the Companion.
7. Do I have to listen to someone else?
If you would prefer not to be a Companion, either because of illness or other special needs, I would recommend you simply have individual One to One Sessions with me.