Focusing Tips by Fiona Parr

I'm often asked questions which I feel are relevant to many people. So I share my responses here which I hope will provide a helpful insight for everyone involved in Focusing and an overview if you are new to Focusing.
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Usually most of us tend to go towards what feels difficult or problematic in our lives, and this is naturally right and proper.

I also wonder how often we Focus with what feels good in our lives.
I suggest that it is helpful to spend at least some time in every session with what feels good. And then to identify and to Focus with exactly how it feels good, and where in your body does it feel good.

There are a number of reasons why it is helpful.
You are building your resources when you find a good feeling in your body. You are strengthening your capacity to be able to deal with what is difficult in your life. When you feel something that feels good, you naturally become more expansive, open and accepting. You can bring these qualities into your Focusing, which helps the process to flow more smoothly.

Being open and friendly.
I would also say that you cannot Focus well, until you have that capacity to be open and friendly. When you are Focusing with something that is feeling difficult or painful, it is important to also have a sense of feeling OK. You need to have both in your awareness at the same time. You can then go back and forth between them, giving your attention to the painful place, as well as the openness and friendliness that you are feeling. The painful place then has a bigger context to be in. You recognise that this is not all that is happening. You can always return to the place in your body that feels good. And something happens when you stay with both the good feeling and the difficult feeling. This is when shifts and changes occur, without you trying to make anything happen. It happens by itself.